Making Excuses in Relationships



Throughout our daily lives, we tend to get consumed with things that we put as our priorities. At times we live a less balanced life, and forget about putting in extra effort into all areas that are of importance. When we do that, not only does it take away from us being more balanced, but it leaves certain areas of our lives less fulfilled, and empty. It’s important that we remember to be balanced, and pay attention to all areas in our life. When it comes to friendships, dating, and relationships, it’s important that we make time for that aspect of our lives as well, so that we maintain a social life, as well as a romantic life. Those are important aspects of everyone’s life, or at least they should be.

At times, people get so consumed with the things that they’re doing, that they not only don’t make time for others in that regard, but they make excuses for why they can’t. People can come up with a long list of excuses as to why they can’t make time for you in their life. It’s important to recognize that when others are making excuses, it’s possible that they simply don’t want to make the time for you. Despite if someone works 80 to 100 hours a week, or has some type of crazy busy schedule, if they want to see you or keep you in their life, they make the time. It’s all about putting effort into things that you view as important. In the same manner that you’d like people to make time for you, others want you to make time for them as well.

The same thing goes for people that make plans and break them frequently, generally being referred to as flaking. Nobody likes a flake. People want to be around others that are not only dependable, but that make them feel as though you care, appreciate them, and want to spend time with them. No one wants to feel like a last resort, even if they’re not a priority. It’s true that many of us have imperative priorities that come way before having a social life. However, it’s important that we all have some type of social life, and as far as romance, it’s essential. We should all make time for our loved ones and make them feel special. Making time for people doesn’t have to be a consuming aspect of your life, but it needs to exist, and it definitely takes effort to maintain.

If people are making excuses as to why they can’t see you, and it’s at the point where months go by even, it’s important to have a conversation with the person, discuss your concerns, and put effort on your part into doing what you can to improve it. It’s one thing to say that you want to improve your social life and your romantic life, but it’s another thing to put that desire into action, and do something about it. It’s easy to say things, but it takes effort in order to do them. Remember, everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated, and the best way to do that is to make time for them. Whether it’s a friend that you haven’t seen in awhile, people that you’re dating, or if you’re in a relationship, and you’re not making the time for romance, it’s important that you put a little bit of effort into those relationships, so that they can once again thrive and be fulfilling.

For people that are dating or in a relationship, when communication isn’t at its best, it can be hard on the couple. Many times, people make excuses as to why they can’t connect with the person throughout their day, whether it’s via text message or on the telephone. Those are simply just excuses, no matter how busy someone is. When someone wants to talk to you or connect with you, they do. No one is too busy to make a two minute phone call to say hello or that they hope you’re having a great day, even if they’re too busy to talk for very long. Letting someone know that you’re thinking of them, and that they’re not out of sight, out of mind, can be everything in relationships. Remember, a little effort can go along way when it comes to making contact with someone that you care for. It’s essential that we take care of our priorities in life first. Having said that, if you’re wanting to have any type of social life or romantic love life, it’s important that you stably put some effort into it, and connect with those people.

Anne Cohen
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