Walking on Eggshells in Relationships


Everyone wants to be happy in their relationship. Happy and healthy relationships take hard work. Healthy relationships need to be based on solid, strong foundations which consist of things like good communication, effort, trust, and affection, etc. When it comes to having good communication, it involves talking, listening, and expressing yourself to each other. The way that a couple communicates to one another is crucial when hoping to maintain a happy love life. Unfortunately, many times couples need to work on their communication skills.

At times, one person in the relationship might be holding back their feelings in fear of their partner’s response or reaction. When they do this, they might feel that they’re helping their relationship by oppressing conflict, but they’re doing nothing of the sort. If anything, they’re causing their relationship damage, and future problems by not resolving their issues, or addressing their concerns. People should never be afraid to communicate their feelings to their partner. Your partner’s not going to be able to read your mind, nor should you expect them to. It’s important to let your partner know how you’re feeling, and definitely when something is bothering you.

Walking on eggshells is never a fun thing. It seems that many people try to avoid conflict in their relationship by sucking it up so to speak, trying to avoid drama. Many times they’re afraid that not only their partner won’t like what they have to say or what they might’ve done, but it will cause their partner pain or even provoke an argument. It’s important to keep it real in relationships, and let your partner know how you truly feel. If someone else’s behaviors are toxic in any way, they need to work on themselves. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t express yourself, and let them know how you feel in fear of their reaction.

Communication is essential for every relationship. And part of having good communication is feeling comfortable to express yourself. Don’t ruin the comfort level in your relationship by snapping at your partner, lashing out at them, or by shutting them down when they’re trying to communicate with you. Be open to listening to one another and hear each other out. But remember, no one will want to listen to you if you’re too harsh, mean, or making them feel as if you’re emotionally attacking them when they try to communicate with you. Keep the door open to having great communication by remaining calm, loving, and understanding. Be each other’s best friend, and that means, listening with love, talking with love, and not judging one another or being aggressive with your responses or reactions.

Last but not least, don’t nag. Nagging your partner can lead to them closing up. But it can also lead to you feeling as if you’re walking on eggshells by how they’ll likely react to your nagging. Learn to communicate what you want without nagging or pestering someone. Think about it, if you want something done bad enough, do it yourself, rather than provoke an argument from repeating yourself too much. Pick and choose your battles. Don’t fight over little things. It’s not worth it to make a big deal out of something that really isn’t such a big deal in the big picture. Nagging only leads to couples arguing. And besides, like I said, the nagger will likely end up feeling as if they’re walking on eggshells by how their partner responds.

On a last note, if someone is violent, dangerous, toxic, or psychotic in any way, then you shouldn’t be with them in the first place. But, for everyone else, you should be able to express yourself without being afraid of your partner’s reaction or response. Couples don’t have to agree on everything. Remember, no one should have to walk on eggshells in relationships. Fear is not supposed to be a part of true love, and definitely not a part of a healthy relationship.

Anne Cohen
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5 thoughts on “Walking on Eggshells in Relationships

  1. I love this article. Well written.
    But it’s not an able application when one is stuck in a relationship with a narcissist. And many people in abusive relationships are always trying (hopefully) to find a safe way out and sometimes that can take too many years. Especially when children are involved.

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